Jakarta, ThedailyID — Constantly checking a phone while someone is talking has become a common habit in today’s digital world. Although many people see it as rude or dismissive, psychologists say the behavior often reflects deeper psychological and social factors rather than simple disrespect.
Experts explain that one major reason is habit formation. Frequent smartphone use trains the brain to seek constant stimulation, making it difficult to resist checking notifications even during face-to-face conversations.
Another factor is the fear of missing out (FOMO). Many people worry they might miss an important message, social media update, or breaking news. As a result, they instinctively glance at their phones throughout conversations.
Some people also use their phones as a coping mechanism for social anxiety or awkwardness. Looking at a screen can provide temporary comfort during uncomfortable moments or help them avoid prolonged eye contact.
Psychologists also point to dopamine-driven behavior. Every notification, like, or message triggers a small dopamine release, encouraging repeated phone-checking. Over time, the brain begins to crave these digital rewards.
In some cases, excessive phone use reflects reduced attention control. Constant multitasking between conversations and digital content can make it harder to stay focused on a single interaction.
Stress may also contribute to the habit. People experiencing work pressure or personal concerns often check their devices repeatedly because they feel the need to stay connected or monitor ongoing situations.
However, experts note that context matters. Checking a phone briefly for an urgent call or important message differs from continuously scrolling through social media while someone is speaking.
To improve communication, psychologists recommend putting the phone away during conversations, enabling “Do Not Disturb” mode when possible, and practicing active listening. Small changes like maintaining eye contact and responding attentively can strengthen relationships and help others feel valued.
